Pet peeve

[Edna_E]

Is it a regional problem or are the times a-changin'? I cannot help but notice that people here recently are VERY lax about RSVPs even when they are explicitly requested. Some people will say they will not attend something and then will show up anyway. Others will promise to be there and then not show up or cancel at the last minute with no reason offered. Some simply will not say anything, even if asked that afternoon whether they plan to be there. I can see this for a casual event where no RSVP has been requested, but this occurs here even with seated catered dinners. Is this lack of consideration occurring elsewhere? Do you think it is rude, or am I out of touch?

[Sara]

RSVP has become a real problem. When my kids have their birthday parties, I can't even plan well and never have a clue who is going to attend. It's frustrating and I consider it rude.

[Darlene]

It's very rude and yes it happens everywhere. I do think the tide will be changing soon and people will be getting back to more civilized thoughtful way of life. All I can do is to raise my 2 kids with manners and hope they pass it on to others. So far so good.
Another pet peeve of mine is tardyness. I hate when people are late. I understand once in a while things happen but to those who make it a practice I let them know how I feel. To me it's like they are saying I am not a priority and my feelings & time don't matter.
I'm usually a friendly pussycat...just play nice & I'll be nice back.;)

[baxjul]

I agree with all of you! People are becoming very rude.

[wanderinggrandma]

My DD lives in South Florida and her MIL and SIL were ranting:eek: :eek: :eek: about this very thing last visit. I listened well and will ALWAYS RSVP, I promise.

I will say that back east they are much better at this than on the west coast. It is very frustrating and rude. I have a friend that greets the non-RSVP-ers at the door and states very sweetly "I'm sorry, when you didn't respond I assumed you were not coming. I have only prepared for those who responded." Very effective, trust me.

[Edna_E]

[QUOTE=Darlene;6094]
Another pet peeve of mine is tardyness. I hate when people are late. I understand once in a while things happen but to those who make it a practice I let them know how I feel. To me it's like they are saying I am not a priority and my feelings & time don't matter.
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I used to date someone who was in many ways VERY considerate, but who routinely ran late. I chided him about it (at church) one day, and he said he'd rather tbe late than have to wait for everybody else. I responded "So, you'd rather have everbody else wait for you..." He was never late for another event that we both attended, and we continued dating for a couple of years.