heartathome
05-02-2005, 02:31 PM
Okay, I love the man, I really do. He is a wonderful provder and a great dad.
But honestly when he gets in a funk he needs to be kicked in the backside!
We were raised in very different homes. No one ever got overtly angry in my house. He is from a family of griping, complaining, screamers (and that is putting it mildly). See the problem here?
He also has noe clue that you can't just scream at a 3 & 7 year old "Clean up this mess or I am throwing it all away!" And expect them to snap to and do it all. They have to have direction.
Well, anyway, he went off last night because the house is a mess - despite the fact that I cleaned and tidied every day last week. Now much of this is because he just walks over it all until it is horrendous and then gripes about it making us all cry.
For example, we are currently having a trash war. I expect him to empty the trash. He doesn't do it and by cracky I am not going to! So, the trash can is overflowing.
Sometimes we have a bloomer war. I sort, wash, dry, fold and put away the clothes. His sole job is to carry the laundry basket back upstairs for me. Well, if we won't I don't do laundry. AND, i have more underwear than he does! :rolleyes:
So last night he griped about how he was tired of everything. We la-di-da - so am I!!! I am tired of busting my backside to clean and straighten and no one says squat. I am tired of cooking nice meals and no one even carries their dishes back into the sink. I am tired of everyone expecting ME to find something they used last and misplaced!!!!
Ugh - sorry to vent. This to shall pass. I would put him on eBay, but I think I might have to pay someone to take him!
But honestly when he gets in a funk he needs to be kicked in the backside!
We were raised in very different homes. No one ever got overtly angry in my house. He is from a family of griping, complaining, screamers (and that is putting it mildly). See the problem here?
He also has noe clue that you can't just scream at a 3 & 7 year old "Clean up this mess or I am throwing it all away!" And expect them to snap to and do it all. They have to have direction.
Well, anyway, he went off last night because the house is a mess - despite the fact that I cleaned and tidied every day last week. Now much of this is because he just walks over it all until it is horrendous and then gripes about it making us all cry.
For example, we are currently having a trash war. I expect him to empty the trash. He doesn't do it and by cracky I am not going to! So, the trash can is overflowing.
Sometimes we have a bloomer war. I sort, wash, dry, fold and put away the clothes. His sole job is to carry the laundry basket back upstairs for me. Well, if we won't I don't do laundry. AND, i have more underwear than he does! :rolleyes:
So last night he griped about how he was tired of everything. We la-di-da - so am I!!! I am tired of busting my backside to clean and straighten and no one says squat. I am tired of cooking nice meals and no one even carries their dishes back into the sink. I am tired of everyone expecting ME to find something they used last and misplaced!!!!
Ugh - sorry to vent. This to shall pass. I would put him on eBay, but I think I might have to pay someone to take him!